HELENA DE KLERK

Counselling & Psychotherapy

Throughout or after therapy you might find it helpful to do additional reading or to explore things on your own. Here you will find a list of resources including a list of books, videos, podcasts and websites that you might find useful. It is not an exhaustive list and some material may not be suitable to everyone. I have also included videos of relaxing and grounding exercises for you to try at home.

If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to get in touch.

Books

For adults

The Whole Brain Child: 12 Proven Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Siegel & Payne Bryson - the science behind what children need to develop and how to support this development

Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby’s Brain by Sue Gerhardt - exploration of early relationships in childhood and the effects of early life on later emotional and physical wellbeing

 

The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read by Philippa Perry - thoughts on parenting and how your own upbringing can influence parenting and your children’s development

 

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help you Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller - learn about attachment styles and how yours affects your relationships

 

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson - explores relationships within the context of Emotionally Focused Therapy and attachment

 

Mind the Gap: The Truth About Desire and How to Futureproof your Sex Life by Karen Gurney - explores the science and preconceptions around sex

 

Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships by Meg-John Barker - an exploration of relationships

 

Life Isn’t Binary: On Being Both, Beyond and In-Between by Alex Iantaffi & Meg-John Barker - an exploration of the effects of binary thinking and how to be less rigid

 

Speak Peace in a World of Conflict: What You Say Next Will Change Your World by Marshall Rosenberg - learn how to communicate better, improve your relationships and live a more fulfilling life

 

The Marshmallow Test: Understanding self control and how to master it by Walter Mischel - exploration of self control based on the classic Marshmallow experiment (check this out on YouTube) and how this affects our behaviour

 

Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig - a personal exploration of depression and hopelessness

 

Notes on a Nervous Planet by Matt Haig - exploration of anxiety, mental health and a world that triggers stress

 

The Comfort Book by Matt Haig - exploration of how to self-love and develop emotional resilience

 

Unshame: Healing Trauma Based Shame Through Psychotherapyby Carolyn Spring - a personal journey with trauma based shame and how psychotherapy helped

 

The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk - an exploration of the effects of trauma on the mind and body

 

Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine - an exploration of stressful life events and trauma with a specific focus on physical sensations and the body’s response

 

When The Body Says No by Gabor Maté - explores the mind-body link and connects the dots between stress, emotions and the body

 

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker - a personal exploration of living with c-PTSD

 

Reinventing Your Life: The Breakthrough Program to End Negative Behavior and Feel Great Again by Jeffrey Young & Janet Klosko - using schema therapy to explore patterns in life that get in the way of you meeting your needs

 

The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves by Stephen Grosz - an exploration of life through the work of Grosz and his clients

 

Love’s Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy by Irivin Yalom - an exploration of life through the lens of Yalom’s work with his clients

 

How to Be an Existentialist or How to Get Real, Get a Grip and Stop Making Excuses by Gary Cox - explores the philosophy behind existentialism and offers self help advice in line with the existentialist approach

 

Haruki Murakami - a range of novels that explore different experiences relating to life and humanity

Books

For adolescents

Fierce Fairytales by Nikita Gill - a retelling of classic fairytales from a different perspective that explores gender stereotypes

 

Diary of a Young Naturalist by Dara McAnulty - a personal exploration of depression, hopelessness and the connection with nature from the perspective of someone living with autism

 

His Dark Materials (Northern Lights) Trilogy by Philip Pullman - a coming of age story where identity and development play a prominent feature

 

I Had a Black Dog: His Name was Depression by Matthew Johnstone - a description of what life is like with depression

Books

For children

The Colour Monster by Anna Llenas - an exploration of (different) feelings

 

Ruby’s Worry: A Big Bright Feelings Book by Tom Percival - an exploration of feelings

 

When Sadness Comes to Call by Eva Eland - how to be with sadness

 

Julian is a Mermaid by Jessica Love - an exploration of identity and tolerance

 

A Terrible Thing Happened by Margaret Holmes & Cary Pillo - an exploration of how we can feel when something scary or traumatic happens

Videos

For adults

The Power of Vulnerability by Brene Brown (TedTalks)


Listening to Shame by Brene Brown (TedTalks)
 

This Could Be Why You’re Depressed or Anxious by Johann Hari (TedTalk)
 

Everything You Think You Know About Addiction is Wrong by Johann Hari (TedTalks)
 

Why We All Need to Practice Emotional First Aid by Guy Winch (TedTalk)
 

How To Fix a Broken Heart by Guy Winch (TedTalk)
 

How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime by Nadine Burke Harris (TedTalk)

 

School of Life YouTube channel
 

The Mask You Live In - exploration of (toxic) masculinity in American context

Podcasts

For adults

ACT in context


Mad in America: Rethinking Mental Health

 

Making Sense with Sam Harris
 

Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel

 

How’s Work with Esther Perel
 

The Rubin Mindfulness Meditations
 

Ted Radio Hour